New Years resolutions.

If you have ever made a resolution, I would guess you have broken a resolution. The worst part about making/breaking one is that you feel like you failed and why not just give up because you already broke it. This is why I think making a New years resolution is not the way to change something you really want to do. All the good things I have changed about my self have been done by just deciding what I have to do to make them happen and then doing it. Like when I quit smoking. I had to just throw them out and not buy any more ever. Now I did that process like five times and was told by people I was just throwing money away when I would start again and throw them out when I decided I was going to try again. I have not smoked in a very long time and still crave them all the time but as with any addiction you can hardly ever have just one more and not want a whole lot more. So, this worked for me. It doesn't mean it will work for you. I can tell you that giving up will never work for you. If you want a change in your life. No matter how many times you fail you must never give up and this is the key. The secret if you will, that every person who has ever made any big change has in common. So this year I have decided to have a non resolution to get healthy and be happy. And see as many people in my life as I can and make tons of memories. I am not going to give up. Please don't give up on your dreams either. No matter what.

Respect the gift God gave you. Your child.

Speaking as someone who has been trying to get prego for over 7 years. It drives me crazy when I see someone yell at their child because they are sick and need a little extra attention or need to go to the bathroom and that just wasn't in your plans. (I have been told by parents that I confront about the bathroom thing that they don't really have to go. They just want to play. I say how do you know unless you are them. It is not good for them to hold it for a long time.) I know there are days that are more stressful then others but this is no reason to take it out on your child. I think sometimes people forget what it is like to be a child. To not understand what is going on around you and to blame yourself for everything. Any time anything goes wrong they blame them selves. The stress of not having a real voice.


Now I am not of the school of don't ever spank for any reason but at the same time there is no need to beat them within an inch of their lives because they forgot to close the front door again. It just kills me when I hear stories of abuse of any kind towards a child. There is no reason for it. The only people who could do such a thing are monsters.


As, soon as you had that child you should decide that their needs are more important than yours. As such, If they need to be in bed at a certain time to get up for school the next day and be awake and actually able to work, but your really want to do something that will keep them up half the night. if you don't have a babysitter. Guess what? You shouldn't do it. or if you are a single parent and you want to date that does not meen you should introduce your child to every new conquest for them to only lose them if it doesn't work out. Or worse yet, If you just met someone and you don't know them to well. NEVER leave your child with them alone. Oh and That doesn't mean you just met them and you feel like you've known them your whole life. You still just met them. Even if you've known someone your whole lives, You never really 100% know anyone. Your child diserves better than that. There is a reason that Roughly 33% of girls and 14% of boys are molested before the age of 18. And that's just the reported ones. It's because people are to trusting with there chilren and the children haven't been tought that no one has the right to touch you in certain areas. I know it isn't the easiest conversation to have with a young child and you shouldn't have to have it but take it from a victim of child molestation. You would much rather have that conversation then find out someone you knew and trusted has done the unthinkable act to your child. They can't be affraid to talk to you about what has happened. That is how the person that has done it gets their power. They make them affraid. I know I went off a little about this but it is very important to me.



Please just listen, teach, love and nurture your children and above all else protect them.

My take on road rage.

First, we are all guilty of it a little bit unless you have led a charmed life. Second, most of us at some point it another have been the cause of it. Let say for instance you just found out your child was rushed to the hospital. You make an illegal u-turn and cut someone off or and I know a couple of people that do this next one. You speed up because you don't want that person to gut in front of you no matter what. Now I understand you can't be a door mat for others and that there are just plain and simple bad drivers. The kind that you wonder if the person that gave them their license was fully awake that day. But, most of the people that do stupid things that get you mad probably have something going on in their lives that has been the indirect cause for the temporary laps of judgement. It could be any number of things. A death in the family that you have to get to the funeral, a sick child you need to pick up meds for, a husband or wife layer off from work and now you have to get to work to keep the only income coming into the house. Just think before you rage if you can about what they might have going on that would cause them to do something so careless.

If you have just been trying to merge for a half hour because there is road construction and it's going from 3 lanes to 1; and now someone wants to merge in front of you. Think of the frustration you just had. They now have that same frustration unless you make it easier on them. I guess what I and trying to say is put yourselves in their shoes.

Love and learn from your elders.

They may not know everything, but they have been here longer so I'm sure for the most part they know more. They have most likely done that thing they are telling you not to do and it didn't work out to well for them. Or they have seen it done by someone else. Either way they have had life experience that you haven't. Insight that you can't have at your younger age. Now, this is not to say they always know best or that you should blindly listen to everything they say and never have learning experiences for yourself. But don't think that just because they say it that it must be wrong. They will undoubtably be able to teach you a few things your life will be the better for.


I started this because I visited my grandfather tonight and he is my last living grandparent. If your lucky enough to still have any grandparents left take the time to really listen to them. You never know what you'll learn. Or at the very least it will show them how much you really love them. He is an amazing man who has had an amazing life. I am just lucky when he share his life stories with me.

Stealing is bad for your health, if i find out.

Just found out today that the home health person that comes to take care of my grandfather might have stolen his wife's ring and bracelet. There is only one thing I hate as much as lying and that is stealing. I just can't wrap my mind around it. The sad thing is that it was a ring his wife has had for over30 years from her first husband who is no longer with us. To her it is irreplaceable. To the person who took it, it's got no value other than the money they can get for it. I can only hope that people that steal are unaware of the heartache they cause. Otherwise they wouldn't do it. But I know this can't always be true.

Don't tell me something and then tell me to keep it SECRET.

This always gets to me the most. Someone will talk about someone behind their back and then tell you not to tell them. This in it's self is not a lie but when the person they were talking about asks you if they were talking about them that's when the lying starts. So, by telling you to keep it secret they are telling you not to be HONEST. I personally never say anything about a person I wouldn't be willing to say to their face. Now, I know you don't want to tell the birthday boy there is a suprise party. But, don't start talking crap about someone and if I know that person expect me not to tell them. Just saying.


I am the worst secret keeper ever. I use to tell people this all the time. If you don't want everyone to know about it please don't tell me. You know that little voice in your head that says "you shouldn't say that." I don't have that filter. If I'm thinking it. I'm saying it. I guess that's how I became the HONEST person I am. You can't lie if you say everything on your mind. I tell perfect strangers about getting a breast biopsy. I just say everything. Secrets are just another form of lying to me. If you don't tell someone they were adopted their whole life is it a secret or is it lying? Just saying. If you say what's on your mind. Be HONEST and don't keep secrets you will have a much happier life.